a good word about Jesus. And now I can’t forgive myself for squandering the opportunity to get what I had been longing for.” “I had happiness in the palm of my hand and dropped it!” The person proudly acts as if he could control the world and guarantee getting what he wants. When his desires are thwarted, the result is self-reproach and a haunting case of “if only I had …” He is blind to his underlying urge to control his own happiness. We see this in Sally and her collapsed desires. She wanted the